JUNIOR'S JOURNEY HOME: 2009-10-04

Saturday, October 10, 2009

Who is Meema?

Akins: Meema? Meema?
Maima: Akins, who is Meema?
Akins: Meema? (getting inpatient)
Mommy: Meema is your imaginary friend and I let her go out the window so she could walk to school and she never came home. (tried this to see if he would use Maima's correct name - didn't work)
Akins: No, Meema came home she's right there. (pointing to Maima)

I guess we could be asking who is Doria too?

Today the kids found some play money while at the post office trying to get Maima a passport. Here is Akins counting the money...

Eighty, Seventy, Twelvety...

So who is Meema? Maima of course... I now have official legal right to have her in my home. I hired my attorney (something I swore I would never do again) to apply for guardianship. She found a way to get emergency custody and she has contacted Laura (the woman who originally adopted Maima) and told her that she needed to sign an affadavit releasing custody and that in 5 months she would be expected to show up in Tulsa court for the adoption hearing once it is set or we would apply for back child support for 6 months and process her for child neglect. I'm sure that was an interetsing conversation. Needless to say Laura is ready to sign any documents necessary.

Everything is going well with Maima. It has been a tough transition no doubt. Long hard cries for Maima at the loss of a life she thought she had, and a lot of "oh my God what are we doing" moments for us, but Maima is ours for good. Or should I say Meema is ours until Akins can actually remember to say her name and then Maima will be ours for good!

Funny conversations:
Akins: Does Superman have a girlfriend?
Mommy: Yes, her name is Lois Lane.
Akins: Meema, I am superman and you are Lois.
Maima: Ewww, dude (we are rubbing off on her) that is so gross. A brother and sister cannot be boyfriend and girlfriend.
Akins: I am superman and you are Lois.

Akins: Mommy, I need a new girlfriend.
Mommy: You mean you don't want Annie to be your girlfriend any more? (Sue Richardson and me plotting the future).
Akins: No.
Mommy: Why?
Akins: Because I already have a new girlfriend in my class.
Mommy: Ohhhh, you are a two timer! Then you will have to call Annie and breakup with her. She might cry.
Akins: Why will she cry.
Mommy: It might hurt her feelings. Girls don't like it when someone breaks up with them.
Akins: Oh, what's her number?

(Of course, typical man!)

Thursday, October 8, 2009

Akins Turns 5!

The past weekend was filled with a ton of fun! Akins turned 5 and we kicked off the weekend by spending a very long day at the fair.

Maima hugging Akins at the fair while waiting in long lines!

Akins birthday party was a jumping smash!

Giving it a big WHACK!

Maima winding up for her turn

Candy everyone?

Sponge Bob delight!

Karen's Story

Gosh! Where to begin! Karen wants to adopt two children. She has been open to older children and both genders. After not getting a referral for a long time. Karen even applied in Ethiopia and Lesotho thus holding applications in three countries trying to broaden the options. Still no referral. Finally, Karen found Ishamel and asked about him. He is 9 years old and she has fallen in love. Still - Karen waits on a second referral. Still she holds applications in all three countries. The thought of making Ishamel wait while waiting for another referral has Karen in knots so she has made travel plans and is leaving to get Ishamel on August 23, 2007 and will likely have to make another trip for a second child! Karen has been my sounding board throughout these past few months. We got our referrals at about the same time and began holding each other together via telephone. Hang in there Karen!

Patricia's Story

This woman obviously has the patience of Job. She has waited 2 1/2 years for a child often feeling like she has been forgotten about. Finally, she got the referal for little Alomiza. After all this time and a communication failure she thought this child had been returned home. Later, it was confirmed that Alomiza is still at the house. Patricia hopes to bring her home in September but does not have specific plans yet as due to all of the waiting some of the paperwork has expired. We are all holding on to Alomiza coming home before fall!

July 19, 2007 - The Other Kids and Families

Needless to say international adoption is not an esay process. For the kids they often wait and wait. For the parents they often wait and wait! The only thing to keep everyone sane is each other. In the house there were reportedly 29 kids as of May 2007. The kids keep each other sane they play and learn together. The older kids are harder to place and often wait longer. The older kids seem mature and responsible beyond their years and are often seen caring for the smaller children. It seems to be natural and loving. Several familes are adopting more than one child so there are fewer familes. The familes stay sane by staying in contact through yahoo groups on line and the phone. By working together we learn. Without each other the process is maddening, complicated, confusing and very frustrating. There is little information provided and it is very infrequent.

July 26, 2007 - 12 day countdown!

Twelve more days until flight day! I'm starting to get anxious. I think with all of the frustrations and bad information around passports it was hard for me to "trust" that I was really going to bring Junior home. I now have tickets in hand and I'm goin'!

Heather shot off a short email today and while her arrival in Monrovia did not go exactly according to plan she did get to see the kids briefly - and she got to tell them their Mommies loved them and were coming soon - she wrote (VAL - JUNIOR WAS ALL SMILES!) I can not even explain how this made me feel and now I am really ready!

July 27, 2007 - 11 days and I can't sit still!

Unfortunately, no news from Heather today. All of us waiting families were hoping for an update from her and possisbly some photos! The mix up on her travel included not having reservations booked at the hotel where Internet is available so the communication from her is probably going to be limited. With Independance Day celebrations now complete she may be able to get better accomodations. We are all hoping for this anyway!

Yesterday, July 26th was the official Independence Day holiday Liberia was to celebrate its independence anniversary with something of a light show when Monrovia's street lights were to be turned on for the first time in 15 years, officials said on Wednesday.

Here's to PEACE, FREEDOM and DEMOCRACY in Liberia!